Adults Prefer The Box Too

It's cliche to say that kids prefer to play in the box the fancy thing came in. But it's true. A quick bit of internet searching turns up no academic papers on the subject. So as an armchair psychologist and expert struggling learning parent of a 7-month old, I have some thoughts.

Boxes are FAMILIAR

Your kid has been sleeping in a box their whole life. In fact, the very first object they were placed in, was very boxlike. They know how the box works, they know how to interact with it, and they know it's safe.

If fits tidily into their growing mental model of the world.

If you think this changes as you grow up, you are sadly mistaken. In his recent book The Unpersuadables: Adventures with the Enemies of Science, Will Storr talks with young earth creationists, holocaust deniers, and homeopathic medicine advocates. He finds they all exhibit similar symptoms of confirmation bias.

Confirmation bias is the tendency to cherry pick facts that support your previously held beliefs and ignore facts that are problematic.

And if you are thinking this is a problem for other people, Storr has some other thoughts. He claims we all do this. And it's a survival tactic. He uses the phrase superabundance of information to describe the vast amount of information out there. Our brains have evolved to filter out extraneous information. When you are being chased by a lion, your brain doesn't need to be distracted wondering what type of flower you just stepped on.

So for both your toddler and you, the familiar, the objects, concepts, opinions, and ideas that fit nicely into your current narrative are the most attractive. And by magnitudes we strengthen that narrative, making it harder for new information to break in.

Boxes are open ended

The toy inside the box has some opinions about how you use it. If you immediately turn it upside down, a well meaning parent is going to "fix" it for you. But when you flip the box, it just went from a car to a tent.

I can still remember reading the manual when I bought the original Sim City. Gather round and hear about when you went to Electronics Boutique and purchased software that came in a box. Back then, it also came with a manual and the manual for Sim City did not call it a computer "game," it called it a computer "toy."

The manual went on to say a ball is a toy, it can be used in any number of games, just like Sim City. Want to be an urban planner extraordinaire, go right ahead. Want to put that nuclear power plant right next to a park, sounds great. Want to rebuild 1961 Tokyo after a monster attack?

In The Unpersuadables, Storr also posits that we all want to be the hero of our own story. Open ended interactions let you write the story with you at its center. Not so with a flashing, beeping, attention-grabbing toy.